Breaking Up is Hard to Do

October 26, 2012 at 5:00 am / by

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Arizona PolitiChick Tina Drake has been teaching and mentoring Junior High and High School students, in churches where she has been active, since her time as a college student, over twenty-five years ago.… More

Recently I began wondering what it would be like if President Obama’s campaign began playing Neil Sedaka’s hit “Breaking Up is Hard to Do” at his campaign rallies.  It’s beginning to look like many people are considering breaking up with the President by November 6th.  And really, why wouldn’t they?

There are many hassles of dating; maybe you’re going through some of them now.  If we take a different view of voting, it’s not much different than dating.

First, there is the attraction phase, the moment that “special someone” walks through the door and you see him/her from across the room.  You realize, WOW, I need to meet that person!  When you do, you begin to swoon at their smooth talking, realizing they seem genuine (and pretty good-looking, too).  You do everything you can to be near this person, especially if popularity is a “strong suit”.

Then, if you capture his/her attention, maybe you get some time alone and begin to share each of your thoughts and ideas, hopes and dreams.  This is the moment where butterflies invade your stomach and it doesn’t really matter what they say or if you disagree with a few things.  At this point they are wonderful and the most perfect person you have ever met.  (Are your high school dating mistakes–I mean experiences–coming back to haunt you yet?)

After this period of your relationship, which could have been an hour, a week, a month or more, we sometimes begin to see chinks in our “dream dates’” façade.  Maybe they aren’t calling you every day, or things they promised to do aren’t being done.  To top it off, you are realizing you really don’t agree with each other as much as you thought you once did.

That’s when the uncomfortable feeling in your heart starts to grow.  You see it coming–that moment we all dread in dating, but which Neil Sedaka was able to make a hit record about:  The break up.

Many of your acquaintances might still like your boyfriend/girlfriend; maybe they are even really close buddies now.  However your more logical and realistic friends are beginning to see what you see.  When you ask what to do, they say things like, “Go with your heart” or “It’s okay, you will find someone better soon”.

You come to the point where you look in the mirror and say, “Should I stay or should I go?”  (I know, another hit song by the Clash.)

Voting is the same way when you have an incumbent President.  It’s a dating relationship, except you can only break up every four years.

Perhaps you are reading this and you voted for President Obama in 2008.  Your relationship with President Obama is like so many other voters who had their hearts swept away with his smooth way with words and his sincere attitude toward worthy causes, but now you don’t quite see things eye to eye.  Sometimes you even argue on what is the right thing to do in certain situations.  You just don’t agree anymore.

Many of your friends are saying ‘he’s no good for you’, ‘get out of this relationship while you can’, but you are afraid.  Who wouldn’t be after you’ve you four years in this President?  You were committed to the “Dream” and “Hoped” it would last.

Now you need a “Change” and should move “Forward” without him.

I know what you’re thinking: “But I remember those Friday nights when everyone else had a date and I was home alone!”  I completely understand.   All your friends are probably in the Obama boat and if you get off, you think you’ll be alone.

You won’t be alone.

Like you, there are many disenfranchised and undecided voters and if you remember those painful break ups, when you see it coming you want to be the first to end it, usually using those fateful words, “It’s not you, it’s me”.  When you don’t get to say it first, it hurts.  All of us said, “If this happens again, I’m saying it first!”

Well, this year you can say it first.  You get to do the breaking up but with a better way of saying it: “It’s not me, it’s you and I want a new President!”

Thank goodness when you date you can break up whenever you want; there isn’t a set amount of time you have to date before you can end it.  No trial periods–after one date you can say goodbye! Unfortunately, it’s not that way in politics. We only get one chance every four years to break up—which is what we have right now.

If there is a doubt in your mind that you can’t last another four years in this relationship with President Obama, break up with him.  You won’t be sitting home on Friday nights for long.  Before you know it, the economy will be swinging back your direction and you’ll have money to go out with your friends again, as well as being able to fill up your gas tank more easily or pick up the taxi fare for the group, and with extra change in your pocket.

Breaking up is hard to do, but don’t let Obama sweet talk you into making up or staying with him for another four years with his empty promises. Those promises will only lead to four more years of heartache.

Use the lessons you learned from dating when you vote on November 6th.



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Tina Drake

Arizona PolitiChick Tina Drake has been teaching and mentoring Junior High and High School students, in churches where she has been active, since her time as a college student, over twenty-five years ago. Tina believes politics and religion can, and should, be discussed together. She says she is a “lifelong follower of Christ and believer in the true significance of God's power in each and everyone's life” and she believes in the absolute need for God and Christ to be honored and included in the decisions made for our country. Tina continues to mentor students in this age group, along with her husband, multiple times each week. She believes that encouraging people, especially students, to see the need for a relationship with God and Jesus Christ in their everyday life, is an absolute need in her life. Tina volunteers weekly in her children's school, allowing her to witness how today's students are learning and developing in their social, educational, political and spiritual beliefs. Witnessing how students experience life, during the timeframe of Junior High through College, is immensely important to Tina. She believes this age group needs to be mentored, so they will have the tools with which to navigate today's societal pressures to live life without God, rather than with Him. Tina has also been a teacher to women in churches, teaching small groups, as well as speaking to large groups on a variety of spiritual topics. In addition to Spiritual Formation, Tina has been actively following and discussing the many facets of politics. Tina is a graduate of the University of Arizona, having earned a degree in Communication and a minor in Political Science. After college, she worked in the field of Advertising and Marketing, specializing in Media Buying and Planning, as well as directing entire Marketing and Sales departments. She has been a writer for since 2012 and says she “enjoys the opportunity to encourage Americans to live out their faith in Jesus Christ, while they stand firm on the principles set forth by our forefathers in their political beliefs”.

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  1. Love it. Let’s make Obama a “one hit wonder”

  2. our voting system is very sloppy and full of fraud and you can’t discount all the section 8 folks who will auto vote for Obama and there are more every day soon America will be a 3rd world country

  3. Myrtle says:

    TO UNDECIDED VOTERS:::::Please read the true story about Benghazi and you will no longer be undecided if you love America. However, If you think more of our MARXIST, COMMUNIST living in our WH, just ignore this message. He has LIED to each and every one of his staff and told them ALL to tell the story we got from our UN Ambassador who repeated the lie constantly on her tv time. EVEN our Sect. of State lied to the public, because she was told to by MR. OBUMMER! Do you want another 4 years of NOTHING but LIES from our government, not me! He is not recognized by me as My President, but I will not call him what he is! NO, what he is to me is NOTHING!!

  4. And the rule for dating, ladies, is ONE LIE IS ALL IT TAKES to say Good-bye. Quit making excuses for the “bad boy.”

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